Dear Sexy Sage,
I am a woman in my 60’s and over the last 5 years ago, I have either been single or in open relationships, and have had a good amount of FWBs (friends with benefits). I have enjoyed things I have not experienced before such as anal sex, as well as being restrained and dominated. It is so sexually affirming and because I orgasm so often and fairly easily now, my body is experiencing a lot of sexual liberation.
I now realize that the reason I got so bored and turned off sexually in past long term relationships was because I was bored and turned off! Most men don’t have much game in the bedroom and just don’t know how to truly please a woman, never mind know much about women’s sexual responses and how to tap into our amazing sexual capacities!
This brings me to my question, SS, and that is the men I gravitate towards are partnered in ENM (ethical non monogamous relationships). They are interesting dudes with fascinating lives and tend to have a lot of game in the bedroom. I think as a group they are more self aware, better partners, more open than most men. Plus they have typically been with a pretty awesome woman for a long time.
That is the rub: they have primary relationships, and want secondary or more casual relationships. This has been fun in the past, but now that I am recently out of a relationship with a primary partner, I am aware that I want to be the primary not the secondary partner. I have found myself less interested in FWBs in the last few months.
Is it reasonable to think I could find a great single man in my approximate age group who is open to an open ENM relationship?
Thanks,
Stuck in the Middle
Dear Middle,
My answer is a resounding YES! He is just waiting for you to find him. He is kind, considerate, knowledgeable about women’s bodies and pleasure, and has experience in opening up a relationship. He is also a good fit for you energetically. You match each other. And you both in your 60’s are able to fully welcome and step into the joyful, not boring, playfulness of naughty, fun sex. Keep your eyes and heart and groin open! He is near! Keep the faith!
Blessings,
Sexy Sage who has been there and done that
