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Dear Sexy Sage,
I am a senior looking for my partner, after 30 years in relationship and three years of being single and dating. I have a wonderful FWB with whom I have extremely satisfying, hot , naughty sex. Our relationship would never be more than FWBs.
I have met a very nice man who is kind, caring, a bit of a geek, with whom I have a mild attraction. I am afraid I won’t be sexually satisfied with him based on how he is in his skin. Yet, he is available as a potentially wonderful partner.
The more we get to know each other and connect emotionally, the more my feelings for him grow. We have kissed a little and are physically affectionate. That has been nice.
However, I have fear and trepidation about sleeping with him. I just can’t see it being good. I can’t tell if I am just afraid or if I know the sexual chemistry is not there.
What do I do, SS?
Naughty or Nice
Dear N or N,
I get your dilemma, but I want to reassure you that great sex with FWBs makes sense, especially because there isn’t a lot at risk. So don’t let that hold you back from developing a real relationship with someone else.
So go for it Ms Nice! Take it slow and easy. Get to know each other. There is no rush. Let it reveal itself to you more. Have fun flirting and courting and growing together. You will know.
Keep the faith!
And let me know,
Sexy
