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Sexy Sage Dishes on the Online Hunt!
Greetings from your Sexy Sage!
I get a lot of questions from you, dear readers, about how to date online.
I am a big fan of online dating because, with proper discernment skills and some time spent in research mode, you can find really good people, avoid the dickheads, make wonderful new friends and maybe even find a romantic partner!
So here are some random thoughts about what you might want to look for or look out for when you start the online hunt. Though geared to heterosexual cis women, anyone can find relevant tidbits in the following.
First of all, let’s start with mindset.
I am here to say the dating scene looks pretty much the same in our 60’s as it did in our 20's and 30's and 40's. It also is fairly similar whether you are 25 or 65. Its about attraction, connection and compatability.
That dating is now predominantly online rather than IRL doesn’t make that much difference unless your mindset is closed, with some romanticized and very old-fashioned notions about having to meet someone the ‘real’ way. If so, please cut yourself some slack and don’t make yourself date online.
Online dating offers you a pool of available partners (excluding scammers of course, who also exist IRL). I find this very convenient and helpful!
Nough said.
Swiping left:
I figure that choosing NOT to select someone is almost as important as selecting someone. I figure I pass on 80% of all the profiles I review.
Passing on someone shows that I know what I want and thus, what I don’t want. It is an affirmation of sorts. It is necessary. It shows focus and confidence.
Over time, I have found that swiping left has evolved. I used to give people the benefit of the doubt. Now I just focus on selecting the very best potential dates.
The profiles I swipe left on as fast as possible and in no specific order:
- have lots pictures of the man’s motorcycles or sports cars;
- include many pictures of themselves when they were 5–40 years younger
