Dear Sexy Sage,
I keep meeting interesting, kind men. We have a lot in common, have great conversations, but I feel no spark. No attraction. No chemistry.
Chemistry seems so rare and hard to find. The men tend to be interested in me and find me attractive but really there is no fire between us. What is a girl to do?
Do I just wait til the chemistry is there or can it be ignited? Please help!
Signed,
No Flame
Dear No Flame,
Chemistry between two people is a rare and powerful occurrence. It is not required. If you have a good connection, lots in common, emotional matching, mutual respect, you can grow that spark until it does ignite. It might be a slow burning flame, but one that is lasting and lovely.
I recommend taking it slowly and leaning into flirting, courting, and growing the emotional connection. Slowly add physical affection and stoke that fire!
Good luck! Let me know how it goes, Flame Girl!
Sexy Sage
